Serially Single No More…

This blogger is back from a 2 year hiatus.

With a more appropriate name,  I am leaving this venue for a much better one. 

Come and take a look… 

I learned a lot in knowing who my true friends are these past years.

I learned that a friend is someone I trust to be with me when I am at my weakest and most vulnerable. And they are people who, no matter how painful it is to see, are willing to be with me when I am so helpless and weak. If I would trust my life with you, and vice versa, we are friends. It’s not about whether you are trustworthy, or whether you are friendly, it’s the actual act of trust that is the basis of friendship. If I trust you to be truthful, then you’re a friend.

Friendship is not a state of mind, it’s an act.A continuous act. It’s reciprocal. It’s something you do, it’s not about whether you’re good or not, it’s not a reflection of you, it’s a balanced relationship between people. That doesn’t mean it’s always balanced at every moment. Sometimes you “need a friend” and other times it’s the other way. It’s a trust that’s returned.

I give tribute to my friends, near and far; most of whom I seldom see nowadays but whose friendships are so alive and real in spite of the distance:

• Anna         }   Thanks for
• Mia           }    visiting!
• Margot
• Millet
• Lizzie
• Miscen
• Lowie
• Dinty
• Meldy

I miss you all.  Thank you for being in my life.

Dear Anti-Valentine’s Day Single Friends,

Of course we hate being alone on Valentine’s Day, so what else is new?

Society and Media have been overly focused on COUPLES that we singles feel as if we are a menace to society, but hear me out on this one, all you have to do is treat yourself to a lovely day and end it with another single friend.  That’s plain and simple (not unless naubusan ka na rin ng single friends… hahaha). Rent a movie preferably a comedy, splurge on your comfort food (mine is KFC!) have some popcorn and enjoy honest-to-goodness bonding time…  It’s not the end of the world you know, thank goodness this occassion does not last more than 24 hours!  (Hmmmm for some pala it does hehehe)

I came across this email about doing hilarious things on this most dreaded day… Maybe some of you would be wacky enough to actually do it (!) but my intention is for a few good laughs lang hahaha, so reader’s discretion is advised (",)

Things to do on Valentine’s Day When You’re Single

Many a V-Day in the past have I spent alone, so I have come up with some activities to pass the time, I just thought I would pass on a few of my favorites for those less fortunate than myself, unless of course you enjoy sitting in your bedroom weeping into a box of chocolates (probably the one you bought for an intended sweetie who has since snubbed you..)

1. Enjoy a nice day outside. The fresh air will do you good, and as you walk around you’ll notice all the happy couples, and the flower carts on every corner, this will further your belief that "all the good ones are taken" and/or "I don’t have a chance in hell" and it’s always nice to be proven right. This should bring your despair level to a peak. At times you may be tempted to walk up to one of these happy couples and slap one of them silly (usually it’s the one speaking "baby talk" to their partner loud enough that it can be heard by passers-by), please feel free to do this, as it will make you feel better, as an added bonus, the endorphine/adenaline rush you get after running away at high speeds from the person you have assaulted will make you feel on top of the world.

2. Go to the gym. It should be near empty as most others will be getting a work-out of a different sort. You will have free reign of the machines, and the next day you will be in so much pain that you will be spared from having see all of those attractive people who will be there trying to work off the 3 ounces they gained from eating one too many butter-creme.

3. Hop on the internet, log into any IRC channel you see fit (the ones with "flirt" or "Love" in the names are best for the following purpose), after you have become nauseated with the flood of ASCII roses, stupid pop-ups and enough cute /action commands, type in a good twelve lines about how stupid these people are and how they should go out and find a real person to date, tell them that the only reason you are these is that you are stuck at work (or some other viable excuse). This need not be true, but it will make you feel good because at least you’re not them.

4. Buy cinnamon hearts (those little red ones that are so prevelant around this time of year), and I mean a lot of them. cinnamon hearts have a uniqe property that when they become damp they will stick to anything with a force rivaling super glue (it is rumored that cinnimon hearts were developed with the intention of creating a new surgical adhesive). Take your time in a public park covering an entire statue (bench or other such park fixture) completely in cinnamon hearts. If anyone stops you tell them it’s in the name of love, and begin pelting them with the aforementiond candies. This should kill a few hours, and the resulting red-sticky residue will be around for months as rain does it’s lovely work.

5. Chocolate is cheap around V-day, this is a great opportunity to test many of the scientific theories about chocolate. Buy as much as you can, and begin eating around 8 AM, don’t stop till well in the afternoon. After you come down from the combination sugar/caffeine rush (or get back from the stomach pumping station at your local hospital) publish your results on the internet, claim loudly that chocolate will never be better than sex (AMEN!), and complain about how you had to waste such a precious holiday to prove such a point.

Hahaha!

Love,

Serially Single Issa

P.S.  NOPE! I won’t be alone this Valentine’s Day… Halleluiah!!!

HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR! Since I don’t lie about my age (unlike some people hahaha),  I am proud to say that I was born in 1970!  It’s my year!!!  Yehey!!  They say it’s the year of the Fire Dog…  Wow how appropriate since my boyfriend is a FIREFIGHTER and we’re both born on the same year so … it’s our year Baby!

Anyways … I spent the morning cleaning my unit and getting rid of clutter. That’s a typical thing I do for the New Year. The idea is that you clean out the bad spirits, to start off the New Year fresh. I did a decent job. Threw out a few bags of old files, knick-knacks, make up etc (yes, part of the prework for getting new ones!) and cleaned and scrubbed my bathroom and kitchen. Every year I do this as I get slightly superstitious. Well if it’s worth anything and the Chinese Gods are deciding who to throw good luck at … I want to be a contender for whatever it’s worth.

Red is for good luck.  So they say wear RED… As I end this entry, I am wearing something Red and it’s definitely not my shirt  

Kong Hey Fat Choi!

Just what is it about us Single Women of the New Milleneum? 

Are we under attack???

Tsk tsk tsk…

I’ve heard it all…  Bakit ka pa Single ha??? 

A typical day in the life of the author… Can u pass me the sugar pls???

"Being too Independent":

My answer to that is this,  I believe being able to stand on your own is the best thing we can do to reach some level of contentment.  To prove one’s worth.  It’s not to say that we don’t need a man,  it’s just saying we are blessed to have an opportunity to shine on our own and finding the man who will add balance in our lives is the ultimate gift.

"Being picky":

I discovered that wanting the best is ok.  Settling is pathetic.

"Being Lesbians":

Hahaha!  No, never considered it.  But kudos to those who choose otherwise!

"Being Bitter":

Ok ok, we may have some ax to grind about someone or something,  however, I think being able to address unsettled issues in our own time is better than having to face it while married.

"Being too Strong" (Physically/Emotionally):

Physical vigor is not really my best asset but I can ward off an assailant with some skills I learned through the years… YAHHHHHH!  Proud to say too that I can move the furnitures around without saying silly remarks such as "I don’t want to break a nail eh".  Duh! 

Emotional Strength on the otherhand is developed through constant learning (my past mistakes and the mistakes of others).  Insanity is doing the same things and expecting a different outcome.  Self-preservation is inevitable.  It’s never too early to develop strength with ease.

"Being Career-oriented":

Duh!!! Bills! Bills! Bills!  Who else will pay???

I can go on and on but my answers will remain simple (short and sweet). Funny but each time I am cornered to answer these kinds of questions,  it doesn’t seem irritating anymore…  I know they mean well… and I guess people are just curious and maybe envious… Hehehe!

Later!

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Thanks Lowie for the title..